tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-79892234652945284152024-03-06T14:02:19.932-06:00 DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AS A WHOLEThis blog seeks to address domestic violence as a whole and to address the myths that are out there regarding this subject. Through this blog, It is also my hope to bring hope and healing to everyone who has been affected by DV as well as raise awareness to those who have not. Domestic Violence happens to men, women, teens, and children. It does not discriminate against gender, race, socioeconomic status or any other factor. We all have to do our part in order to combat domestic violence.Nicole Loftonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12256113588313903173noreply@blogger.comBlogger64125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7989223465294528415.post-10352311053422953822022-03-09T07:58:00.000-06:002022-03-09T07:58:13.831-06:00Testimony Tuesdays: Anti Domestic Violence Advocate Nicole C. Lofton Shares Her Story Of Domestic Violence/Emotional Abuse<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;">Hello Everyone, It has been a while since I have written on this blog. I just wanted to thank you all for all of your support over the years. It is because of you all that this blog still gets as many readers, comments, and support as it does. I truly cherish all of you. I want to talk about the importance of sharing our stories. I believe this is especially important for Domestic Violence Survivors because we are know to suffer in silence. The more we stay silence, the more we keep ourselves from healing and the longer we neglect to bless someone else who may be going through Domestic Violence. We overcome for sharing of our testimonies. </div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;">Yesterday, I shared my testimony is some details probably the most detailed I ever had publicly. It was very freeing and I know it will be a blessing to someone. I went live on Facebook for the first time ever. I shed light on emotional abuse as domestic violence is often viewed as only physical, but people need to understand that emotional abuse is domestic violence and should not be taken lightly or be accepted. So, today, I share with you the video I made yesterday. I pray that it is a blessing to you. Feel free to comment or share, if you ever want to share your testimony, please let me know. I can be reached at info@purposewhispers.com</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/Npb-VK0he0M" width="474" youtube-src-id="Npb-VK0he0M"></iframe></div><br /><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><p></p>Nicole Loftonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12256113588313903173noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7989223465294528415.post-31472176668180697762020-03-24T17:44:00.002-05:002020-03-24T17:55:32.589-05:00Domestic Violence and The Coronavirus<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody>
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I have been contemplating writing this post because I know what I am going to discuss is serious and sensitive on many different levels. Not only is domestic violence in itself a serious topic, but the topic of the Coronavirus is a serious one at that. Both of these topics are sensitive in a sense that there are many different views and opinions on them. They also can bring about many different emotions for some people.<br />
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However, before I get started, I need to have a transparent moment with my readers. It has definitely been a while since I have written a post on this blog. It was not because I gave up on raising awareness on domestic violence, it was just solely due to the trials of life. In may of 2019, I developed a health issue that affected my hands. Because of that, I couldn't really type or write as much I was use to doing. I also had personal issues that overwhelming just affected me to the point where I was just in a different space. I am better now though. I believe it's important to be transparent with people who support me because without you all this blog wouldn't be what it is now.<br />
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So now let's get back to the topic(s) at hand. For the past three days, as I scrolled through my Facebook memories, I was seeing past post that I had written about domestic violence. Those post contained different statistics as it pertains to domestic violence. I am really not a statistics person, but sometimes they help when trying to paint a bigger picture. However, in the midst of those three days, I truly believe God was speaking to me. I started thinking about what is going on in the world as far as the cororavirus goes and then I started thinking about the significant impact that this virus could have on survivors and victims of domestic violence.<br />
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We are seeing everyday countries and even states within counties go on lock down or as some prefer to say give "stay at home" orders. This means that at this time many of us aside from going to work, the grocery store, the gas station, or the hospital, we should stay home in order to prevent the spread of the coronavirus aka COVID-19. Many of us understand the seriousness of abiding by this order, although it does present a challenge to us on different levels.<br />
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But what happens when you are someone who is currently experiencing domestic violence and you have to stay at home? This presents serious issues. People who in abusive situations are already being controlled, being physically and/or emotionally abused, and possibly experiencing financial abuse. The opportunity to go get out the house and go to work or anywhere for that matter could be the only freedom that man or woman has and for some that is even being taken away. Some have lost their jobs and some have to work from home.<br />
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Let's think of the challenge of working from home in an abusive relationship especially if their partner is also at home. The person who is being abused may not even actually be able to work due to their partners abuse. This could possibly result in the victim losing his or her job. The abuser may exercise his or her power and control by saying their partner has to wait until he or she finishes work before they can start work. Imagine being in a house all day with someone who you are afraid of us, someone who torments you, and you literally have no where to turn. This is what real life is like for some people right now. Not only do they have to try to protect themselves from a virus but they have to try to protect themselves from their partner.<br />
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What if kids are involved? Imagine what the scene at home would be like for them? Seeing their parents arguing and fighting also affects them and then the kids may be being abused physically and/or emotionally to. Yet, during this time, there is no outlet. You cannot visit with friends and family, some people cannot go to work. Abusers will sometimes even control who you talk to on the phone so that there is no reaching out to family/friends or attempting to call the police.<br />
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So what can be done during this time? I for one am going to pray and of course, I am going to write out the prayer on this post so that you all can read it and possibly share it with someone. I am praying for EVERYONE during this time, but definitely for those are victims of domestic violence. I am even praying for survivors because even during a time like this it cause you to remember certain things and some survivors are still healing. This is not a easy time for any of us, but we will get through it.<br />
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I will also suggest visiting the <a href="https://www.thehotline.org/" target="_blank"> National Domestic Violence Hotline</a> website, they have a lot of information for survivors and victims of domestic violence during COVID-19. You can also log in to their website and request help. There is also a chat button on their website. If you have access to a phone, their phone number is 1-800-799-7233 or you can text LOVEIS to 22522.<br />
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Feel free to check out 3 of my previous post that may be helpful during this time:<br />
1. <a href="http://endthesilencestoptheviolence.blogspot.com/2011/09/prayer-for-victims-survivors-and-anyone.html" target="_blank">A Prayer for victims, survivors, and anyone that has been affected by domestic violence</a><br />
2. <a href="http://endthesilencestoptheviolence.blogspot.com/2012/08/understanding-cycle-of-your-abuser-they.html" target="_blank">Understanding the cycle of your abuser: The key to escaping</a><br />
3. <a href="http://endthesilencestoptheviolence.blogspot.com/2015/10/domesticsheltersorg.html" target="_blank">Domesticshelters.org A Website That Is Making A Difference!</a><br />
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I just want to take this time to say thank you for all that you have done for me and everyone reading this. I also ask lord that you forgive us for our sins, wash them away, and make us whole. I ask that during this time Lord that you provide us with strength because we need it. I also know Lord that you said that your strength is made perfect in our weakness and lord many of us are weak. Many of us are anxious and scared. Many of us are worried and tired. Some are even tired of being in the house Lord.<br />
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Give us strength to make it through these days, give us strength to take care of ourselves and our families. Watch over our children during this time Lord. School is an outlet for some of them and also some were supposed to graduate and go on prom this year and they may not get that chance. We know that these are important milestones to be able to walk across the stage with a cap and gown and receive your diploma. We know its a milestone to be able to go to prom so ease their worries Lord. Comfort them and their parents. While school is an outlet, home is also an outlet for some children. a We know like adults, some children do not speak on what they experience. Please speak to the hearts of parents and continue to guide them and give them wisdom during this time.<br />
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Lord I ask that you send your angels to surround all of us and protect us from the coronavirus. I ask that send your angels into all our homes especially those in abusive or even unhealthy situations. I ask that you cease the arguments, that you cease the emotional, physically, financially, and even spiritual abuse. I ask that you give those that need it a way to freedom away from their abusers. Give them strength, give them courage, give them wisdom, let them know that they are not alone. Show them the way that they can't see and make it plain for them Lord. Let this be the last time that them and their children suffer from any kind of abuse.<br />
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I ask Lord that you provide those with shelter who need it, provides those with food who need it, provide those with doctors who need it, provide those who clothes and shoes who need it, provide those with counseling who need it Lord. Lord you said in your word, that there is a way that seems right to us but you Lord direct our paths. So I ask today Lord that during this time if we are stumbled or went down the wrong path, that you come and direct us to the right one. I ask Lord that you reveal what you want us to do during this time and let us not hesitate to do it. I pray for the safety of everyone reading this and I ask all of these things in Jesus name, Amen.Nicole Loftonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12256113588313903173noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7989223465294528415.post-3353653357413553852018-05-05T21:20:00.001-05:002018-05-05T21:20:03.936-05:0050 Shades Of Bruises; I am Free: A Live Monologue About Domestic Violence by Patti Ann TaylorGreetings!<div>
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If you live in the Chicagoland area, you do not want to miss this powerful live monologue written by Patti Ann Taylor.<a href="https://www.facebook.com/PattiCake613" target="_blank"> Patti Taylor</a> is the founder of nonproft entitled "The Taylor House". 50 Shades of Bruises; I am free is dedicated to Patti Taylor's aunt Pamela Ann Taylor who died of suicide after being abused for 16 years. </div>
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The monologue will be held on Wednesday, September 5th, 2018 from 6pm-10pm at Instituto Cervantes . </div>
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On April 29th 2018, I was blessed to be a guest host on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/debrajhouse" target="_blank">Pastor Debra Wadlington</a>'s radio show "<a href="https://www.facebook.com/AskPastorDebAboutRecovery/" target="_blank">Ask Pastor Deb</a>". Pastor Deb is a domestic violence survivor as well as a recovery coach. Coversations on the topic of domestic violence are very important because there are a lot of misconceptions on the topic. Together Pastor Deb and I touched on some of the myths. Below is the recording, feel free to share your thoughts.<br />
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Thank you all in advance for listening!<br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">There were so many nights I did not think I would make it to see another day but; through my pain and sorrows I made it to see the sun once again. Life at times seemed unbearable and I did not think I deserve to be here. Once I grasped for air and took a long swallow I felt a gush of wind awaken my soul. My mind rehearsed maybe there's room for me. I began to think I was worthy once again that was up until the slap of fire burned my face. I doubted the seeds of I can make it and I fell into life of despair. Slowly feeling like life will pass me by; only if I can dream once again. Abuse stole my identity leaving me to feel like a failure as my head hung low in shame. The song that penetrated my heart "I am a survivor as I roared my way back to health". I can, I will make it became my found new friends and the road to recovery was my way back to destiny. I am healed, I am free but most of all I am a survivor" </span><br />
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It’s no secret that <a href="http://www.newbeginningsdrugrehab.org/resources/addiction-and-violence/" target="_blank">substance abuse and domestic violence</a> are correlated. <gs class="GINGER_SOFTWARE_mark" ginger_software_uiphraseguid="01885b82-e536-4f8c-8c27-d5828ae2f379" id="0f34cc49-d410-4bdd-ac7a-62ac34cf6f52">Alcoh</gs>olics and those who use drugs are more likely to commit spousal abuse than those who don’t. An alarming 61 percent of domestic violence offenders abuse substances and they often blame their explosive behavior on being under the influence. Substance abuse does not cause domestic violence, but because of the strong link between the two, they must be treated simultaneously. Here’s a deeper look on domestic violence, substance abuse, and how to combat both.<br />
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As defined by the Department of Justice, <a href="https://www.justice.gov/ovw/domestic-violence" target="_blank">domestic violence</a> is a pattern of abusive behavior in any relationship that is used by one partner to gain or maintain power and control over another intimate partner. It is a common misconception that those who abuse their partners are always heavily intoxicated at the time of battery and they are totally out of control. However, intimate partner violence is a choice, and many times the batterer chooses to assault their partner in an environment that is safe for them, such as at home or out of the public’s eye. Because a batterer’s <gs class="GINGER_SOFTWARE_mark" ginger_software_uiphraseguid="eb362e45-6a4e-4daf-aa04-d67703a5831f" id="895b3db3-f8d0-4bc9-a1bd-3aec66aca596">spurts</gs> of violence <gs class="GINGER_SOFTWARE_mark" ginger_software_uiphraseguid="eb362e45-6a4e-4daf-aa04-d67703a5831f" id="865dd83b-e994-4073-9d5f-e1beab9dd15c">are</gs> so calculated, it is safe to say that those who abuse <gs class="GINGER_SOFTWARE_mark" ginger_software_uiphraseguid="eb362e45-6a4e-4daf-aa04-d67703a5831f" id="e5a8a632-5529-4a32-b10b-92c36cccdeb6">are</gs> very much in control at that moment.<br />
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The common denominator among domestic violence cases is the use of drugs and alcohol by one or both participants. It is widely assumed that the one inflicting violence is the one battling<a href="http://drugabuse.com/library/get-the-facts-on-substance-abuse/" target="_blank"> substance addiction</a>, however many victims are substance abusers themselves because they turn to drugs or alcohol as a way to cope. When this is the case, the abusive situation becomes even more dangerous. Female abuse victims are 15 times more likely to abuse alcohol and 9 times more likely to abuse drugs than women who have not been subjected to domestic violence. When under the influence, the victim may be unable to escape the attacker or accurately assess the amount of danger they are in. The use of substances may also thwart any attempts to leave the relationship and look for help because they fear they too may be arrested for criminal substance abuse.<br />
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It is important that the substance abusing batterer receives treatment for both forms of abuse, because once drug rehab is complete, they may still have the underlying psychological impulse to harm their partner. Treatment will help the abuser dig deep into their psyche to uncover where this behavior came from, why they thought it was acceptable and how to cope with the urges. Victims of abuse will find refuge in a treatment center because they will feel safe and heard. It is important for survivors of domestic violence to feel believed and validated in order to encourage participation in problem solving and long term planning.<br />
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"This original song Highlighting Domestic Violence - Recorded by the Crocked Monsieurs in support of Refuge - please take time to share this. BUY THE SONG NOW and help raise money for Refuge on iTunes <a href="http://goo.gl/f9HRS">http://goo.gl/f9HRS</a><br />
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This song was inspired by conversations between a close friend of the band who was relating her own experiences of Domestic Violence to them. The song has been featured on several Radio Stations and was included on Red Dragon Records stunning compilation CD 2nd Renaissance. This video was voted video of the Month for May 2014 on Talentcast.<br />
Home Sweet Home continues to receive positive reviews over 1 year after release, Home Sweet Home the original domestic violence awareness song in support of Refuge."Nicole Loftonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12256113588313903173noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7989223465294528415.post-55275886986665795522016-10-05T18:41:00.000-05:002016-10-05T18:42:10.082-05:0030 Signs Of An Emotionally Abusive Relationship(Infographic)This Infographic was made and sent to me by Law Offices of Randy Collins, I think this is a great infographic so I decided to share, if you would like to put it on your blog, website, etc please visit their site at <a href="https://domestic-violence-law.com/30-signs-of-an-emotionally-abusive-relationship/#forward">https://domestic-violence-law.com/30-signs-of-an-emotionally-abusive-relationship/#forward</a><br />
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Today, I checked my email and to my surprise, I had an email from<a href="http://www.lauramartinmusic.com/" target="_blank"> Laura Martin</a>, who happens to live in Spain. One thing that I love about my blog is that I am able to reach and communicate with people all over the world. It truly is a blessing to me. I truly did not realize the impact that this blog would have on so many people including myself when I first started it. I am really humbled. </div>
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Laura Martin wrote a song called "<a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PkethQxI6-I&feature=youtu.be" target="_blank">Quierete</a> (Latin)" which in English means "<a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PkethQxI6-I&feature=youtu.be" target="_blank">Love Yourself</a>". Although the song is in Spanish, Laura has provided subtitles in English. I would encourage you to listen and share the video. It is a beautiful song. </div>
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Feel free to visit Laura's website <u><a href="http://www.lauramartinmusic.com/" target="_blank">Laura Martin Music</a> </u> or her blog <u><a href="http://blog.lauramartinmusic.com/" target="_blank">Laura Martin Music Blog</a></u> to learn more about her.<br />
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Hello All! This time I am here to write to you about a film that I recently just learned about entitled <a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt5126930/" target="_blank"><i>My Baby Shot Me Down</i></a> When the <i>My Baby Shot Me Down</i><a href="https://twitter.com/mbsmd_movie" target="_blank"> twitter account</a> followed me, I instantly wanted to know more about the film. It appears that the film is not out yet, but it will be out soon. The film is by <a href="https://twitter.com/DDaemy" target="_blank">Daniella Daemy </a>and is being made in the UK.<br />
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Of course being the advocate that I am, I just had to share it with you all. I just love sharing anything that has to do with raising awareness of domestic violence. In fact, I get excited because this is a cause that is dear to not only my hear, but I know that is dears to yours as well.<br />
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Although I do not know much about the film, I do know that it is about five women that seek revenge and kidnap men who I believe have committed domestic violence. Feel free to check out the <a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt5126930/" target="_blank">IMDB </a>page that has been created for the film here <a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt5126930/">http://www.imdb.com/title/tt5126930/</a><br />
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Feel free to follow the<i> My Baby Shot Me Down</i> twitter account @mbsmd_movie <a href="https://twitter.com/mbsmd_movie" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/mbsmd_movie</a><br />
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Hello, everyone! Today, I am happy to write to you about this amazing song and video that was made by 13 year old <a href="http://www.nya-entertainment.com/nya-s-bio" target="_blank">Nya Marquez</a>. I absolutely love music and I love when it brings awareness to an important cause especially domestic violence. While on <a href="http://www.twitter.com/nicolecherese" target="_blank">Twitter</a> about two months ago, I happened to come across the twitter page of <a href="https://twitter.com/Nyaband" target="_blank">Nya Marquez</a>, in which I saw her promoting her song that she made to bring hope and healing to those affected by domestic violence.<br />
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I have to say that I was and I still am very touched by Nya's song "<a href="http://www.nonomore.info/" target="_blank">No, No More</a>". I think that it is such a beautiful song and Nya is a beautiful person inside and out. To be 13 years old spreading such an inspiring and important message is very beautiful. I hope that you are as touched and inspired, by the song and the video as I am. Please share and reach out to Nya on twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/Nyaband" target="_blank">@nyaband</a> and show your support for what she is doing to raise awareness for domestic violence. </div>
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Hello Again! I have yet again something to share with you all today lol. I finally finished my ebook/pdf "The Miseducation of Domestic Violence:Dispelling The Myths In Order To Promote The Truth</div>
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You can view the eBook by clicking on the cover or you can download it by clicking here <a href="https://dl.orangedox.com/DCt7KMRc5g17LsByJl/The%20Miseducation%C2%A0of%20%C2%A0Domestic%20Violence.pdf" target="_blank">The Miseducation Of Domestic Violence</a></div>
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<br />Nicole Loftonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12256113588313903173noreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7989223465294528415.post-83760271971773251842015-10-28T08:55:00.000-05:002016-03-16T20:48:16.798-05:00Award Winning Singer/Songwriter Laura Baron Premieres New Video About Domestic Violence! Hello again to all my wonderful readers and supporters!<br />
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Once again, I have something to share with you. As you know already, I love to see or hear about people spreading awareness about domestic violence and I am always open to working with anyone supporting this cause. I was blessed to receive an email from singer/songwriter<a href="http://www.laurabaronmusic.com/" target="_blank"> Laura Baron</a> who shared with me that she had made a music video to raise awareness for domestic violence.<br />
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When people reach out to me, I like to take my time to actually listen or read what is that they are doing, have done, or want to do so it did take me a couple of days to watch the video in its entirety. I can honestly say that I absolutely love this video. The video is very emotional but I appreciate the realness of it. It tells and shows the story of a woman breaking free from domestic violence. I believe that this is a video that everyone should see. I am happy to be able to blog about it and share it with you all today.<br />
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I am happy to present to you<a href="http://www.laurabaronmusic.com/" target="_blank"> Laura Baron</a>'s new music video "<a href="https://youtu.be/4cRcFxhqx24" target="_blank">A Little Note</a>", please watch and share. Pleasure also visit her website <a href="http://www.laurabaronmusic.com/">http://www.laurabaronmusic.com/</a> and learn more about her. <a href="http://www.laurabaronmusic.com/" target="_blank">Laura</a> truly has a beautiful spirit.<br />
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<br />Nicole Loftonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12256113588313903173noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7989223465294528415.post-3682681408434700242015-10-26T20:21:00.002-05:002016-03-16T20:50:01.207-05:00DomesticShelters.org: A Website That Is Making A Difference!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Today, I want to share a very important resource with you all. Some of you may already know of this resource already. I have been meaning to write about this resource for some time now and I finally got around to it. The resource that I am speaking of is <a href="http://domesticshelters.org/">DomesticShelters.org</a> and as I wrote in the title of this blog post, it is definitely a website that is making a difference in the lives of survivors, victims, and those around them.</div>
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So what is <a href="http://domesticshelters.org/">DomesticShelters.org</a>?</div>
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Well <a href="https://www.domesticshelters.org/" target="_blank">DomesticShelters.org </a>is the LARGEST(see how I wrote that lol) online searchable database for domestic violence shelters. This is something that has definitely been well needed in the domestic violence field. <a href="http://domesticshelters.org/">DomesticShelters.org</a> was started by <a href="https://www.facebook.com/TheresasFund/timeline?ref=page_internal" target="_blank">Theresa's Fund</a> and <a href="http://www.ncadv.org/" target="_blank">The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence</a>. Not only does it provide information regarding shelters, they provide many other resources as well including amazing articles for anybody that has a questions about DV, anybody who is experiencing DV, and anybody that has survived DV. </div>
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Although <a href="http://domesticshelters.org/">DomesticShelters.org</a> has only been around for a little over year, they have already had about 525,000 visitors. I would definitely encourage you all to utilize, check out and share this website. It is definitely a step in the right direction of domestic violence awareness and the fight to stop domestic violence. </div>
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Nicole Loftonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12256113588313903173noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7989223465294528415.post-37977807929048057732015-10-24T20:07:00.000-05:002015-10-24T20:07:04.090-05:00Ashton Kutcher And His Media Company A Plus Spread Awareness About Domestic Violence!I am thoroughly excited that <a href="https://twitter.com/APLUSK" target="_blank">Ashton Kutcher</a> and his media company <a href="http://aplus.com/a/domestic-violence-cycle-infographic-women-kids?c=3111&utm_campaign=i102&utm_source=a88493" target="_blank">A Plus</a> have decided to join the fight against domestic violence. Domestic Violence is still a cause that needs much attention and I always think it is awesome when celebrities help raise awareness. I know that ANYBODY can raise awareness, but celebrities can raise awareness on a bigger scale and so I think what <a href="https://twitter.com/APLUSK" target="_blank">Ashton Kutcher</a> and his <a href="http://aplus.com/a/domestic-violence-cycle-infographic-women-kids?c=3111&utm_campaign=i102&utm_source=a88493" target="_blank">media team</a> are doing is amazing. <div>
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What they have done is created an<a href="http://aplus.com/a/domestic-violence-cycle-infographic-women-kids?c=3111&utm_campaign=i102&utm_source=a88493" target="_blank"> infographic</a> that shows, in their words, "the effects of abuse that outlast physical violence, but are still detrimental". The <a href="http://aplus.com/a/domestic-violence-cycle-infographic-women-kids?c=3111&utm_campaign=i102&utm_source=a88493" target="_blank">infographic</a> basically shows what happens after abuse and how it affects the survivor as far as their children, their employment, and their living situations go. </div>
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Nicole Loftonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12256113588313903173noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7989223465294528415.post-12917410108939778562015-10-07T10:14:00.000-05:002015-10-07T10:14:26.239-05:00Dear Survivor, It's Time To Heal<br />
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I hope this message finds you at the right time in your life. It's been a while since I have wrote on this blog, but I am always grateful for all of you who still read and keep up with this particular blog. I have a very important message on my heart. It is one that God has placed on my heart this week and that message is that it is time to heal.<br />
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This is only goes for you, but it goes for me as well. It is time for us to heal and allow ourselves to be free to be ourselves again as well as to love and be loved. Now I know some people may feel like they have already healed. I felt that way too, but sometimes we are only temporarily or half way healed.<br />
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The moment that we keep replaying our situation and it brings us down instead of uplifting us, that is a sign that we are not yet healed. The moment when we try to begin a new relationship or endeavor, but the memories of the past begin to haunt us and hold us back, then we are not healed yet. The moment we feel ashamed of what we went through so we will not share our story, that is a sign that we have not healed yet. The moment when we continue to enter unhealthy relationships because they don't seem as bad as the previous ones, that is a sign that we have not healed yet.<br />
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Now, don't get me wrong, I understand healing is a process and sometimes a lengthy one, but I know for sure that I myself still have some healing to do and God is the only one that can truly heal us. Sometimes we get in the way of our healing by refusing to let go of the negative/unwanted thoughts or even sometimes refusing to let go of the people that are bring us down.<br />
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How will we know when we have truly healed? Well, we will know that we have healed, when we can look back on our situations and smile. Why smile? Because you survived! You thought you would not make it! If we are being honest, you probably thought that would not live to see another day when you were going through the situation you were going through. You thought you would never be happy again, never have peace again, never find happiness, but you have! You live another day to testify and share your story to help someone else!<br />
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That is the beautiful thing about surviving and also the beautiful thing about pain because pain has purpose. Think about all the strength and wisdom that you gained from that painful situation. During the situation you may have forgot your worth, but surviving that situation helped you find your worth again.<br />
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We all deserve to feel free, to be ourselves, to love ourselves, to spread love, WE DESERVE IT! We deserve to all ourselves to heal. I pray that everyone of you that comes across this blog post gains something from it, it doesn't matter what you survived, this one is for ALL survivors!<br />
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I pray that the peace of God falls down on you and that his love captures you and just holds you so that you can know how wonderful you truly are and that you know that you no longer have to hurt, that you know your worth and what you deserve. I pray that God gives you the strength to rise up and leave any situation that is not for you. I also pray that he gives you the strength to continue to survive and the strength to share your story to bless someone else.<br />
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www.faithfuldeedsfoundation.orgNicole Loftonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12256113588313903173noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7989223465294528415.post-82801492329204527992015-06-09T17:25:00.000-05:002015-06-09T17:25:45.993-05:00Thank You For Surviving! Dear Survivor,<br />
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Has anyone ever told you thank you for surviving? If not, then I would like to be the first person to tell you, so here it goes: THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH FOR SURVIVING! Now, some may be wondering, why I decided to say that or what that really means. What it means is that, surviving domestic violence is more than just leaving or escaping an unhealthy relationship, because even after you do that, you still have to SURVIVE. A lot of people do not understand what domestic violence survivors go through on a daily basis, they have to fight emotions, block out negative thoughts, maybe even tune out negative people, they have to learn to love themselves again, they have to learn to believe in themselves again, they have to believe they are are worth living, they have to learn to trust again and most importantly they have to HEAL!<br />
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Surviving is not something that happens overnight, surviving is something that you do everyday, so from one survivor to another, I just really wanted to say THANK YOU FOR SURVIVING because your survival gives someone else strength to survive. <a href="http://endthesilencestoptheviolence.blogspot.com/2014/10/to-families-that-are-remembering-their.html" target="_blank">For those who may have lost a loved one due to domestic violence</a>, if you are reading this, I want to you know that even though the person that you lost may not be here physically, they still survived and they are in a much better place in Heaven. They fought for their lives everyday and they did survive and now their legacy lives on within you and when a person has a legacy, when a person is so powerful that they can touch many lives even when they are not here on earth, that means they survived.<br />
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Also, to the <a href="http://endthesilencestoptheviolence.blogspot.com/2014/10/to-families-that-are-remembering-their.html" target="_blank">families of those who lost a loved one</a>, I want you also THANK YOU FOR SURVIVING because your survival will also give someone else strength to survive. Pain has purpose and we may not understand it at time time, but eventually God will help us make sense of us it and He will give us peace, strength, and purpose.<br />
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I thank you all for reading! In fact, now that I am writing, let me take the time out to thank my readers, if it was not for you all, no one would even know about this blog, you all give me strength to write. I know sometimes I slack as far as how much I blog, but you all have been tremendous with your support and I thank you.<br />
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Nicole C. Lofton<br />
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As most of you or all of you probably know, this month is Domestic Violence Awareness Month and lately I've really had a lot on my heart. Although I haven't lost anyone to domestic violence, I am a survivor and I started to think about those who have lost someone due to domestic violence. I can't imagine how hard it is especially during this month for those families and friends who are remembering their loved ones. So while raising awareness, I did not want to neglect to send my condolences and uplift those that have lost someone due to domestic violence.<br />
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Heavenly Father, I come to you on behalf of those that have lost someone due to domestic violence. I pray Lord that you give them peace during this time and every time that they feel like they have too much too bear because you said in your word Lord that you would never put more on us than we can bear. I pray that you comfort them during this time and that you help them see the purpose in their pain. I ask that you help them release all that needs to be released so that they can be whole again because you Lord are the only one that can truly makes us whole. Lord I ask that you mend their broken hearts, wipe away their tears, strengthen their prayers, and give them strength to carry on and to carry the memory of their loved ones in the way that you would have them too. Lord, we know that as humans we can never really understand why certain things happen, but we know that you know and that it serves a purpose, a purpose that brings us closer to you, a purpose that brings us closer to others, a purpose that brings healing, patience,wisdom, and deliverance. I pray that you touch every one who comes across not only this blog post, but this blog in general and that you workout whatever situation in their lives needs your attention Lord. This I pray in Jesus name, Amen. </div>
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Nicole Loftonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12256113588313903173noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7989223465294528415.post-50251075232727919982014-09-09T15:04:00.000-05:002014-09-09T15:04:45.388-05:00My Thoughts on The NFL and Domestic Violence (Yes, I'm back again)<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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It seems we meet again. I remember in 2012, when I started a <a href="http://www.endthesilencestoptheviolence.blogspot.com/2012/09/nfl-domestic-violence-petition.html" target="_blank">petition</a> for the NFL to wear purple for domestic violence and everybody was in an uproar. While, there were many supporters, there were many against it as well. There were even some fellow advocates against it only because it said wear purple and not what they felt that it should say, so some of them created their own petitions, which I am not against because I believe the more the merrier, but really where has it gotten us? As advocates we are still so divided amongst a cause that is suppose to be promoting togetherness. Perhaps, if we stood strong together we would be making a bigger impact. These are just my thoughts. If you want to know my reasoning behind the petition you can visit this post here: <a href="http://www.endthesilencestoptheviolence.blogspot.com/2012/12/athletes-and-domestic-violence-why-i.html" target="_blank">Athletes and Domestic Violence: Why I started With The NFL First</a><br />
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I am troubled for a number of reasons, I am troubled with the NFL specifically because even though they have changed their policies, it still may not be good enough. I am troubled with the NFL because they believe that we are ignorant. The NFL believes that we are ignorant enough to believe that they never saw the recent tape which shows The former Baltimore Raven, Ray Rice, knocking out his now wife in the elevator. Really NFL? Really? Do you you really think that we are that ignorant, do you think that we really do not know the truth?<br />
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Quite frankly, I am tired of the commissioner and whoever else is involved that is just saying things for publicity or trying to get the fans or the naysayers off their back. Do something because it is right thing to do. Rodger Goodell, you say that you realized you drop the ball? I don't think you have realized, you just want us to SHUT UP and that is not going to happened. The NFL has failed to see how domestic violence is a very serious problem within their own organization and how getting their players help and raising awareness on a national level could help tremendously. The NFL is one of the BIGGEST organizations are out there and yes I get it, I get that the NFL can choose to support whichever cause that it pleases, but why not one that is destroying your own players lives?<br />
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Which brings me to my next point, does the NFL really care about its players or does it just care about the money? When you see some of your players making costly mistakes that could ruin not only their career, but their personal lives as well, when do you intervene? When do you step up and say hey we need to talk, find out whats going on in your life. No, I do not want to hear that this is not the NFL's responsibilities to do this, because it is. The NFL is different from a lot of other employers, the coaches and staff are with these players more than the players own families are with the players and this says a lot.<br />
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Now, I want to bring up something very important. I have a lot of thoughts and I am very hurt. This is such a touchy subject that many probably won't speak up, but I encourage you all too, even if you use my blog to do so. Now, we all now that the Ravens have let go of Ray Rice and that the NFL has suspended him indefinitely, but think about this(and it no way am I saying that he deserves to keep his job), but he has a wife at home, a wife that we know has experienced abuse at the hands of Ray Rice. How much more will this situation affect them at home, could it lead to more abuse? It's a huge responsibility. What kind of impact is this situation having on his wife? I'm bring it up because no one is talking about it. As a survivor of domestic violence and an advocate, I can probably imagine that his wife is feeling like everything is her fault, it's her fault that she got abused and everybody knows, it's now her fault that he has lost his job(of course that is what the public is saying right?)<br />
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If I am not mistaken, the NFL had her( Ray Rice's wife) apologizing more than they had Ray Rice apologizing, which is absolutely wrong. The NFL care more about Ray Rice and what he could do for them, than they cared about the well being of him and his family. I'm sick of it as well as many other things. I'm sick of hearing that she spit on him, she hit him, its her fault. While no man or woman should be putting their hands on anyone, we always have choices and he choose to knock her out to the point where she was unconscious and then he attempted to drag her out of an elevator, he didn't have a care in the world.<br />
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What about Ray Rice though? What about Him? Obviously, he learned this behavior from somewhere, who is going to sit down with him and offer to help him or just have a serious talk with him? It doesn't mean that he will change, but it doesn't mean that he won't either. Abuse is a learned behavior. A lot of times, how we can control our anger and ourselves period is learned whether we want to admit it or not. We know that Football(which I happened to love) is an aggressive sport, I happened to believe that football is therapeutic for a lot the players, but what happens when what you once loved or is therapeutic to you is no longer that way? What do you do then? You turn to other outlets and you lash out on others. I'm not making any excuses, i'm just stating the truth.<br />
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Women and Men, Ladies and Gentlemen, Domestic Violence, Domestic Abuse is NEVER OK. We have to stop making it OK, love is not abusing each other mentally, emotionally, physically, financially, or spiritually. When two people love one another, they bring out the best in each other and they try their best to live each other up. If you are with someone who is constantly bring out the worst in you, all you all do is fight, ya'll can barely stand to be around each other, then that is not the relationship for you. We all have choices. The sad thing about domestic violence is even in 2014 many people do not know what it is or do not understand it so they judge. We have to empower those that are experiencing abuse and pray for them so they can gain the strength to walk away. Some people NEVER make it out of an abusive relationship. When you decide to make comments think about if it was you and if you have never been in the situation even thinking about if it was you is not going to help. I pray that those who have never been in the situation will never be in it. This is serious, very serious.<br />
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<b>To MY fellow advocates, survivors, and future survivors</b><br />
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The only true way that we can stop this epidemic is if we truly come together on a bigger level, work with each other(not against each other), and support one another. Some of you may know that I am working on a project for survivors and advocates and in return it will help the victims( I really don't like that word). I am asking you all to join together with me and whatever you need me to join together in with you, I will if I am able too. Please email me at <b><a href="mailto:nicolelofton@facingittoday.org">nicolelofton@facingittoday.org</a></b> Let's take a stand together.<br />
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God Bless,<br />
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Nicole C. Lofton<br />
<a href="http://www.facingittoday.org/">www.facingittoday.org</a><br />
<a href="http://www.gardenofpurpose%2Ccom%20/">www.gardenofpurpose,com </a><br />
<br />Nicole Loftonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12256113588313903173noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7989223465294528415.post-59720417305845201862014-07-21T10:37:00.007-05:002021-11-18T12:33:40.107-06:00You Have A Voice That Deserves To Be Heard!Are you a survivor that has a story to tell? Are you living in silence out of fear or judgement? The truth is that we all have a story and we all deserve to be heard.<br />
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Another truth is that your story can help someone else. Many times we go through things so that God can use us to bless someone else. Our pain has purpose.<br />
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I believe in testimonies, I believe that the power of a testimony is very strong. When you decide to tell your story, you not only help someone else, but you begin to release the hurt and the pain that you have held inside all of these years.<br />
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Once you see how your story is impacting others, you will begin to feel better and you will also learn that you are not alone. A lot of times when we go through situations we feel like we are alone because we probably have not met someone that went through what we are going through or simply because we are living in silence. I seek to have a platform for those who feel like they do not have a voice.<br />
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I encourage you to share your story whether you use your name or choose to be anonymous because we believe that is the best way to spread awareness. We place the stories on our site, but now I am even going to share them on this blog(as well as NEW site that we are working on). We are working on a BIG project and we need your help!<br />
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We need people who are willing to share their stories, it's time to overcome! We need volunteers to help us with social media, writing content, marketing, etc. We cannot do it without you! If you feel like to take part in this project or want more information then please email me at<a href="mailto:nicolelofton@facingittoday.org" target="_blank"> nicolelofton@facingittoday.org</a><br />
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God bless,<br />
Nicole C. Lofton<br /><br />
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<br />Nicole Loftonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12256113588313903173noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7989223465294528415.post-59415588905907800242014-05-07T18:51:00.001-05:002014-05-07T18:51:27.282-05:00Stop Running To The Arms Of The One Who Does NOT Love YouThis was something that was on my heart this morning and so instead of writing, I decided to speak it. Sometimes people need to hear things and I pray that this video blesses someone. Again, thank you to all who read my blog and God bless you.<br />
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-Nicole C. Lofton<br />
www.facingittoday.org<br />
www.gardenofpurpose.com<br />
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<br />Nicole Loftonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12256113588313903173noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7989223465294528415.post-89595583885683188762014-05-03T18:20:00.000-05:002014-05-03T18:20:35.503-05:00Angels Will Soar ( A Music Video Spreading Awareness About Domestic Violence)<br />
I am honored to be able to share this video made by<a href="https://www.facebook.com/MyNameIsSiah"> Terry Josiah</a>. Anything that I can do to raise awareness of Domestic Violence, I will do it. Thank you to all who read my blog and all work to spread awareness about this very important subject. We are all end this together.<br />
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-Nicole C. Lofton<br />
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This song is for anyone who has ever been affected by Domestic Violence and its purpose is to raise awareness on this growing epidemic. If you have been affected or know someone who has - share your story with us by hash-tagging #AngelsWillSoar - you'll be amazed at the support you receive.<br />
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A portion of the proceeds will be used to directly help survivors through the non profit organization Break The Silence Against Domestic Violence. We are here to start changing the world - one song at a time.<br />
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Enjoy your new shirts and bracelets and remember; it's not about whether you have the money to buy a shirt or not, it's about having your money stand for something greater than yourself. :-)(-:<br />
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