Dear Survivor, It's Time To Heal

Dear Survivor,

I hope this message finds you at the right time in your life. It's been a while since I have wrote on this blog, but I am always grateful for all of you who still read and keep up with this particular blog. I have a very important message on my heart. It is one that God has placed on my heart this week and that message is that it is time to heal.

This is only goes for you, but it  goes for me as well. It is time for us to heal and allow ourselves to be free to be ourselves again as well as to love and be loved. Now I know some people may feel like they have already healed. I felt that way too, but sometimes we are only temporarily or half way healed.

The moment that we keep replaying our situation and it brings us down instead of uplifting us, that is a sign that we are not yet healed. The moment when we try to begin a new relationship or endeavor, but the memories of the past begin to haunt us and hold us back, then we are not healed yet. The moment we feel ashamed of what we went through so we will not share our story, that is a sign that we have not healed yet. The moment when we continue to enter unhealthy relationships because they don't seem as bad as the previous ones, that is a sign that we have not healed yet.

Now, don't get me wrong, I understand healing is a process and sometimes a lengthy one, but I know for sure that I myself still have some healing to do and God is the only one that can truly heal us. Sometimes we get in the way of our healing by refusing to let go of the negative/unwanted thoughts or even sometimes refusing to let go of the people that are bring us down.

How will we know when we have truly healed? Well, we will know that we have healed, when we can look back on our situations and smile. Why smile? Because you survived! You thought you would not make it! If we are being honest, you probably thought that would not live to see another day when you were going through the situation you were going through. You thought you would never be happy again, never have peace again, never find happiness, but you have! You live another day to testify and share your story to help someone else!

That is the beautiful thing about surviving and also the beautiful thing about pain because pain has purpose. Think about all the strength and wisdom that you gained from that painful situation. During the situation you may have forgot your worth, but surviving that situation helped you find your worth again.

We all deserve to feel free, to be ourselves, to love ourselves, to spread love, WE DESERVE IT! We deserve to all ourselves to heal. I pray that everyone of you that comes across this blog post gains something from it, it doesn't matter what you survived, this one is for ALL survivors!

I pray that the peace of God falls down on you and that his love captures you and just holds you so that you can know how wonderful you truly are and that you know that you no longer have to hurt, that you know your worth and what you deserve. I pray that God gives you the strength to rise up and leave any situation that is not for you.  I also pray that he gives you the strength to continue to survive and the strength to share your story to bless someone else.

I love you all, God Bless
-Nicole Lofton


  1. Thanks for sharing. Sometimes I seek out fellow advisers for peace of mind. The road to help others can be difficult and lonely. I don't know when giving my testimony about the past will be over, but I am grateful that God is with me and others. I provide helpful tips for young women in my book, "Socially Sweet, Privately Cruel Abusive Men" here:


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